Big Girl World!
I asked on my Instagram what topics would be interesting for you to hear, and one of the most common themes was handling transitions in life. And while I’m still learning this myself, here are some thoughts that helped me tremendously, that’ll maybe help you too!
What’s important to keep in mind is that it’s completely okay to be uneasy when change occurs. I feel like we put so much pressure on ourselves to effortlessly handle our emotions. We build up these expectations for ourselves that can be impossible to exceed. When you take a step back from any situation you realize that you handled whatever was thrown at you, or will handle whatever’s thrown at you in the best way you can at the given time. There’s no way to rehearse the past or future!
For example, the idea of moving to a new city terrified me at first. Whenever I used to visit New York, for even a day trip, I’d get really overwhelmed. I honestly wasn’t sure if I could see myself living here. But when the time came, I was completely fine.
Now this past summer before the move? Extremely anxious. Incredibly nervous. But that’s normal! Looking back, how else was I supposed to handle a completely new life change without at least a little bit of uncertainty? Humans are habitual creatures - no one’s a master of change (and if you are kudos to you)!
If someone looks like they have it all together - they don’t. I guarantee you. We’re literally all making up rules and stories as we go. Whatever life transition you may be faced with next (maybe you’re moving from one stage of school to the next, maybe a physical move or a new job, maybe you’re hitting mental milestones), know that it’s okay to be unsure what’s next.
Focus on those who make you happy and hold them close. Focus on what you’re doing when you feel most alive and channel that energy into reminding yourself that you can handle whatever life throws at you. Take it from someone who was terrified of what “big girl world” would be like - it’s really not so bad at all! You’re going to make it your own like you always have. And, as always, I’m here as your biggest fan rooting for you every step of the way. Be kind to yourself 🤍
